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While I have several logic-centered reasons for being polyamorous, I think the most convincing are the ones rooted in emotion and spirit. These are the ones that would be hardest for me to discount because they are what I feel deep inside myself. These are the ones that made me Google “permanent multi-person relationship” while holding my breath hoping for some answers. These are the ones that hold the most true in my heart. Read the rest of this entry »

Because polyamory is as diverse as the people who practice it, my reasons for being poly are personal to me. There are other people who agree with some aspects, I’m sure, and some people who could add other reasons. I’m going to break them up into two parts. These are what I think are the more logic-centered reasons. Read the rest of this entry »

I have a sound system in my car. It’s nothing special: a 12-inch Sony Xplode with a 400 Watt amp. Just a subwoofer, no after market tweeters or door speakers. It was cheap, something we bought from a friend. Read the rest of this entry »

On Slate, I recently emailed in a response explaining why I’m child-free. Well, they liked it and published it. (It also got picked up by ABC News too). Basically, I said being pregnant to me is like being host to a parasite and giving birth to an alien creature I don’t understand. I’ve never wanted to have kids, and I never will if it’s left entirely up to me.

Because I am bisexual, poly, and kinky, I rarely think of my aversion to having kids as the most controversial thing about me. But wow, at the responses. I got nearly 1,900 comments on the Slate article, and most of them were nasty. I even had Facebook friends being mean to me in comments when I posted the article on my page. I also got 2,000 Facebook likes and 31 tweets on the Slate article and even a few Facebook friends who liked my thoughts, so there was some love, but it completely shocked me how taken aback most people were by the essay. Read the rest of this entry »